Starter Marriage!?!?!

My second time writing about break ups and divorces.

Am I the only one who’s noticing lots of young couples (under 30) calling it quits?

When I hear of yet another couple divorcing, I’m astounded because it just feels like such a waste. Time you can never get back. And what makes it even worse is when they literally just got married. They’ve only tried the marriage thing for a short while and now it’s over. Just something you did, part of your life experiences. Big white wedding, expensive jewellery, house, and furnishings and now they are all part of that awful time that’s now associated with your failed marriage. As a guest at the reception. I bought you guys a present for heaven's sake! hehehe and I love buying presents, I think about it carefully and I’m not a cheapskate. C’mon….I was at least hoping you sit it out or rather work it out and get past the difficult times. Yes, there are difficult times. Marriage is not just a bloody bed of roses! Am I bothered by this, well slightly but purely because I hate the concept. Divorce – not a nice word and I presume not a nice experience either.

However, maybe divorce is the best thing to do at times but I feel that it could’ve been avoided by not marrying in the first place! Misconceptions of marriage leads to divorce. Delusions that the spouse is what you’re hoping he/she is leads to disappointment, frustrations and well mostly then divorce . The truth doesn’t always show up too late so young couples must be mindful of the important things. Learn from and not try and avoid quarrels by hiding your opinions and feelings.

“Starter Marriage”, this is an actually term used to describe a short-lived first marriage that ends in divorce with no kids, no property and no regrets. Marriage really is not like it used to be. It’s seemingly acceptable for it to end before it even begun. And if it ends as described above it’s totally okay because it’s just “a starter”, a trial. HUH, oh my. It’s so sad! I think I might still be stuck in antique times because this is really not how I see the sanctity of matrimony .

I stumbled upon this article about “Starter Marriages”:How to Avoid a Starter Marriage | eHow.com

My words for young couples having been married at 25 is grow, adapt, accept, love and reflect:)

The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly.
~Peter De Vries